This week Iwas reminded of two things that have been invaluable in my adult life: the Meyers-Briggs personality test and a verse from Jesus' Sermon on the Mount. Oddly enough, the same person was the reason for both of these coming to mind. He is a person I don't know very well; but hopefully, as time passes and trust builds, we will discover a way to respect and enjoy one another.
I am convinced that each of us has an achilles heel, a weakness of some sort that makes us vulnerable. It is my own particular achilles heel that led me to see the "speck" in someone's eye while failing to see the "log" in my own. As happens, when we judge someone else harshly, I reacted negatively, creating an obstacle in this new relationship we are trying to build. It's not the first time that I have rushed to judgment. As much as I would hope, it will probably not be the last time.
In an effort to try and understand why this happens, help came from an unexpected place: from the person I had judged hastily. He shared as to how he had recently taken the Meyers-Briggs personality test and talked about the results. All of a sudden, I was reminded of the test's helpfulness to me 30 years ago in coming to terms with my personality, with why I do the things I do, why I react in the ways I react.
With that thought in mind, I went home and took the MBTI online. It turns out that two of my letters have changed. While my basic personality has stayed the same, I am now an ENFJ, no longer an INFP. As I read what the overall personality traits of an ENFJ are, I understood why I rush to judgment when I feel hurt. I understood why my first reaction is to see the "speck" in someone elses eye while failing to see the "log" in my own. While this does not take me off the hook for my reaction, I know this is a natural part of me, a most vulnerable part. I understand that I am not a bad person. I am wonderfully made by God!
Why am I writing this? I think it is important that we own the vulnerabilities in our personalities, accept them for what they are, invite God to transform them, and then believe that has happened!
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